Are You an Example of What You Ask of Others?

In the Mindset Coach Academy, its Month 4 which means coaches are stepping into being a Mental Training Expert! Yikes!
One part of this is that they make a video. Of themselves. Teaching one mindset tool. (You may have seen some of them in our private Facebook group as they share these videos.)
For many of these students, this is their first time teaching mental training on camera. For some of them, it triggers feelings of nervousness. Others aren’t necessarily scared of the camera but they self-sabotage in other ways; by getting into a perfectionism mindset, for example. They want everything about the video to be JUST RIGHT. Maybe they are waiting for the stars to align or for divine inspiration to strike.
Either way, they are stalling. Some of them have posted their videos, many have excuses why they haven’t. As you might imagine, most of the excuses aren’t absolute barriers but are rather rooted in fear or in perfectionism. Keep in mind, these excuses are from HIGHLY motivated mindset coaches who have invested $$ in becoming a mindset coach. They WANT this, and still, they’re getting in their own way.
I won’t lie, I was frustrated with my students about why they weren’t doing the videos. So (like I often do) I started thinking about what I could do to help them move forward-I gave them a challenge, I made a video with tips on how to make their own video, I tried to address their fears and challenges.
It only slightly worked.
How often do you want someone in your life to do something? How often do you try your best to help by taking some sort of action? How often does it work?
My guess is that it works... occasionally.
Here is what I’ve learned: External action is not enough. I must also hold the mirror up to myself. Because the answer is often me.
When I see something in my life I don’t like, I try to change IT, but often I need to change MYSELF.
Here is what I mean: I asked all of my students to make videos on camera. Simple, one topic videos. I do these all the time so it doesn’t seem like such a huge deal to me (although I can empathize with feeling fear).
But then I started thinking deeper. What do they need from me? More information? More inspiration, More direction? No. They needed me to be an example of what is possible.
And I wasn't being an example. When I REALLY took a hard look at myself, I realized I wasn’t taking my own advice. I had a ton of marketing and course teaching videos I needed to make and I had been avoiding them in the same way my students had avoided making their videos. These videos were more involved than just doing a Facebook live video on my phone (Chantel would have to help me with the lighting and camera, we had to create a new backdrop, we had to write scripts and outlines etc. etc.) but it was the same mental process my students were going through.
And if I’m being really honest: The biggest barrier for me was that I had to do my hair.
I realize this sounds ridiculous. But that’s the thing with excuses, isn’t it? They are usually only big because we’ve made them big. They are only barriers to us because we focus on them long enough that they just keep growing.
I hate doing my hair. I love it when it’s done but I’m all about the mom ponytail and never feel like I actually have the time to sit there and blow dry it out. And for these videos, I actually needed to be prepped.
Finally, I realized (duh) that I was asking my students to stop making excuses and just do it. But I wasn’t doing it myself.
So I finally took my own advice and I did it: I scheduled a day, blow-dried my hair and did 42 videos in 1 day.
(↑ here’s a screenshot from my video shoot as proof :)
The next week, my students started posting their videos.
It reminded me...
  • Hold the mirror up.
  • Don’t be a hypocrite.
  • Change YOURSELF first.
  • Ask people only what you will ask of yourself.


If the people around you are making excuses, in what areas are you doing the same?
If you believe that sports are 80% mental and do nothing to train your athlete’s mindset. You are doing yourself, your athletes, and your team a disservice.
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