One of my great privileges is getting to work with people that are pushing themselves to new levels.
From coaches who are trying to bring mental training to athletes, to coaches who are trying to start a side-hustle or grow a full on business, this community as a whole is special in that it's not afraid to push hard and face challenge head-on.
Because I know that coaches have that 'athlete mindset' and do not need to be coddled, I hold the coaches I work with to very high standards.
And the hardest thing I have to witness is coaches self-sabotage right in front of me. Over the years, I've learned that I can shine a light on it and coach them through it, but I cannot force them to believe in a future they won’t let themselves see.
I’m pretty good at calling coaches out, challenging them to get out of their own way, encouraging them to bet on themselves, because I know that most people really need...
I do better with limitations. If you give me a project and tell me I have forever to do it, my brain does not get excited. But, if you give me a deadline, I will knock it out like it’s my JOB. I think most people are like that. Ever had an athlete who got better grades in season than off season?
With just a little challenge and a little adrenaline, BOOM, your mind will focus on RESULTS and you'll get WAY more done.
When deadlines don't exist on their own, there are ways to give yourself limitations of your own in order to really benefit from this type of a mind shift.
The next time you're feeling sluggish or demotivated, or overwhelmed by your task list, try the following process.
You know what’s really easy? Being negative. You know what’s really hard? Being positive.
I used to want to be liked. I mean, don’t we all? While there are some people that don't care (which I admire), those people are few and far between... and I'm not one of them. I actually have to work at it.
I don’t mean I WANT to be disliked; that would be ridiculous. I mean it more in the words of my wise cousin Jamie who says,
"Lindsey, to be successful you have to have a healthy disrespect for other people’s opinions.”
(Those are my magic words before I speak in public by the way. Use them, they work)
But you may have noticed, I’m less scripted, less pleasing in my writing and marketing than before. Of course, I didn’t THINK I was editing myself, but turns out, I was. But I did it in such a minimal way that I convinced myself that I wasn't doing it at all. Sneaky, huh?
I’ve been empowered by a number of things- Motherhood, the development of my programs to align with EXACTLY what I want to do, my own mindset work,...
I went skydiving one time. It wasn’t my idea. I was interning after college back in Ames, Iowa and when my internship ended, my boss said he had a surprise for us. He drove us out to a small airport one Tuesday afternoon, plopped down $700 on the counter, and said...
“I’m going skydiving today, yours is paid for if you want to do it too.”
I had never wanted to skydive but I knew in that moment if I didn’t take action, I NEVER would. I would let fear paralyze me and it would never happen. I also knew that THIS opportunity wouldn’t necessarily come again. Sure, there are a million skydiving outfits all over the world, but opportunities don’t just materialize over and over again. They are there, and then they are gone.
I’m glad I did it. It was exhilarating, terrifying, and something I will always remember. I know if I had thought too hard about it, if I’d told myself, ‘I’m only 25,...
Like many of you, I have a lot of balls in the air every day. I’m wearing one hat in the morning, then I switch to another, then I switch to yet another and around and around we go. And that is on a GOOD day.
Things get thrown off one way or another all the time; someone gets sick, emotions get the better of me, or the unexpected ‘to do’s’ take center stage.
It’s easy to be overwhelmed. AND it feels justified. But what if it isn’t?
I read a book a few years ago and it SO hit home because it challenged this cultural belief that we HAVE NO TIME.
Forgive me for paraphrasing a really good book, but this is what I took away from it (mind you, some of this is probably my own thoughts triggered by this book):
Honestly, I think about this book...
It’s easy to assume that because you HAVE support in your life that it’s the RIGHT support. Most of the time, I'd venture to say the support we have on an everyday basis is enough for doing what we are doing NOW. But if we are trying to get to another level, trying to break through to something bigger and bolder, the support structure around us is like the scaffolding needed to build a higher building. It has to rise for us to build higher.
Because here is the thing: There is the ‘I love you, I believe in you and your big goals’ type of support. And there is the “You can push yourself way more and I’ll support you every step of the way.” And it’s really hard for people to serve both types of support consistently. Yes, my husband can kick my butt at times (and definitely does) but EVERY time we sit down for a glass of wine, do I REALLY want him in that role? Does he want to be in that role all the time? Of course not.
In order to become a successful mental training coach, you have to be able to do these 3 things:
Oftentimes, people are naturally good at one of these, maybe two if they're lucky. Rarely are people good at all three without having to really work at it. That said, you have to do all three in order to be able to make a big impact on your athletes and run a successful business. The good news is, it's not rocket science, EVERYONE can learn how to be good at all three, you just have to be willing to learn.
In my experience, most people struggle with the selling part above all else; it doesn't come naturally to a lot of people (including me). Although you may prefer to have someone else sell your services for you, the reality is, that's not usually an option.
The reason I've been successful at being a mindset coach is because I learned how to sell. You HAVE to learn how to...
This video was originally streamed on Facebook Live. Watch the video, and/or read the brief synopsis below to learn about the most powerful mental training tool you should be teaching your athletes.
I get some variation on this question from coaches a lot:
Lindsey, which mindset tool will help my coaching and my athletes the most?
The greatest all-around tool that can truly benefit everyone on your team (including you) is visualization.
If you follow this blog, you've likely heard me mention visualization before (most recently, here, and here). Today, I'm going to keep it simple and talk about how visualization can help you really get through to your athletes.
Visualization is a method in which you imagine a storyline. This enables you to experience something on a deeply emotional level without posing any real risk.
Learn more about the scientific research behind visualization in our previous blog, The Top 5...
I'm sure we can agree that nothing is quite as impactful as a good TRUE story of a life changed for the better. Today, I want to tell you about Mark Ehlen; he's one of the coaches in the Mindset Coach Academy who will be graduating with his Mindset Coach Certification (along with his class) in just a couple weeks.
Mark's basketball resume is impressive, he is a heavily awarded, 30-year Division I college coach with a reputation for winning (to put it lightly). Due to his noteworthy coaching career, Mark was also inducted into the Hall of Fame; an honor well-deserved. Although he hung up his head coaching whistle a few years ago when he retired, coaching was never just a career for Mark; coaching is deeply engrained in him.
With a lifetime of knowledge about the game of basketball and a deep respect for the mental game, a traditional retirement story arc never quite suited Mark. As he puts it: "I'm...