Why do you practice long hours, put in time at the gym, run stairs on the weekends, go back to school, apply for that internship, or work overtime at the office? Oftentimes, you do it because you believe that it will all pay off.
You believe that it will earn you the result you really want.
Being greedy for results can be a good thing. It can keep your goals high, give you energy, and act as motivation when you’re approaching burnout. That little girl who says she’ll play in the WNBA someday might just make it because she has her eye on the prize, she’s greedy for results.
But being greedy for results is not always a good thing. When it goes too far, it can result in self-destruction.
In this video, I’ll talk about:
One of my great privileges is getting to work with people that are pushing themselves to new levels.
From coaches who are trying to bring mental training to athletes, to coaches who are trying to start a side-hustle or grow a full on business, this community as a whole is special in that it's not afraid to push hard and face challenge head-on.
Because I know that coaches have that 'athlete mindset' and do not need to be coddled, I hold the coaches I work with to very high standards.
And the hardest thing I have to witness is coaches self-sabotage right in front of me. Over the years, I've learned that I can shine a light on it and coach them through it, but I cannot force them to believe in a future they won’t let themselves see.
I’m pretty good at calling coaches out, challenging them to get out of their own way, encouraging them to bet on themselves, because I know that most people really need...
In this short clip from our free, 1-hour mental training masterclass for coaches, we discuss how important language is in the way you talk about stress with your team.
This snippet is taken from our full-length masterclass, Game Face: Inside the Minds of Great Competitors. Click the link to join our next class!
There you have it! In this short clip you learned that how you think about stress matters. We also gave you some questions to ask your athletes to help you understand how they view stress in competition.
In the next part, we'll discuss how you (as a coach) can help reframe stress with your athletes and teach them to harness it in a way that will actually make them better competitors.
Then (for the remainder of our 50+ minutes together) we'll teach you even more tools to help you create a team of relentless competitors who take ownership over their mindset.
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Why would I want to stick out MORE by being the best?”
....Said no man EVER (okay I’m exaggerating).
But if you coach women, you know what I’m talking about. Your female athletes don’t necessarily say this out loud, but their subconscious brain is SCREAMING it at them daily.
You see it in their performance; they play down to their teammates, don't take the last shot even though they are most likely to make it (is it fear of failure or fear of success?), don't score ‘too much’, play a great game or great half and then self-sabotage by playing down to a lower level of performance.
I know a little bit about this. I always wanted to be the best. And yet even I felt at a very young age the social COST of being the best. And it made me change my performance.
I stuck out on my high school team, I was from a different part of town, I was higher socioeconomically than many of my teammates, I was the arguably the best player as a...
One of my favorite coaches of all time was the hardest on me.
Isn’t that true for most of us?
She was the one that sat me down and told me my freshman year that I wasn’t cutting it, I looked distracted in workouts and needed to step it up.
She was the one that sat me down and had the real talk real talk of making sure I wasn’t getting too boy crazy in college and keeping my eye on the ball so to speak.
She was the one that would look me straight in the eye and tell me to get my mind right and start competing.
I would have run through a freaking brick wall for this woman. I still will. (It’s Katie Abrahamson-Henderson at UCF by the way). I knew in my soul that she believed in me. I knew that she pushed me hard BECAUSE she cared. And when she was hard on me or disappointed, it hurt, but it motivated me to push to another level.
I love her to my core but not because she was NICE all the time; her positivity was in holding me to a high standard.
I just got back from 8 days in paradise. Our family has a 100-year old cabin in Desolation Wilderness built by my husband’s great grandfather; It’s rustic and simple and has no cell reception. It has no TV and no central heating. We hike into the mountains, make nightly fires, swim in the alpine lakes, and eat dinner on the deck with just the sky, the trees, and the sound of streams running and birds chirping and chipmunks scuttling among the rocks.
Now that I'm a mom, vacation is about THEM. Watching my 4-year old climb for 2 hours on the steepest mountain trail, watching my two daughters invent games with sticks and rocks and pine cones, teaching them how to catch and release crawdads from hand-made fishing poles, seeing them play in the same stream their dad and grandfather grew up playing in.
While I was on vacation, I didn't work for a second, but I did carve out some ‘me’ time; and for me, 'me' time means more than just...
I do better with limitations. If you give me a project and tell me I have forever to do it, my brain does not get excited. But, if you give me a deadline, I will knock it out like it’s my JOB. I think most people are like that. Ever had an athlete who got better grades in season than off season?
With just a little challenge and a little adrenaline, BOOM, your mind will focus on RESULTS and you'll get WAY more done.
When deadlines don't exist on their own, there are ways to give yourself limitations of your own in order to really benefit from this type of a mind shift.
The next time you're feeling sluggish or demotivated, or overwhelmed by your task list, try the following process.
You know what’s really easy? Being negative. You know what’s really hard? Being positive.
If you are here, you are probably either already practicing mental training with your team OR you fall into one of the two categories:
If you have a healthy appreciation of mental training, you may have even tossed around the idea of bringing Positive Performance (or another mental training expert) to your campus to work with your team.
While bringing another coach in to train your athletes has its obvious benefits, I want to propose another option, one that you may not have thought about before: Why don’t YOU become the mindset coach for your team?
Before diving into these benefits, I want to first address the coaches here who...