Lindsey 00:12
Welcome to the Mindset Coach Academy Podcast. I'm Lindsey Wilson. And I am a high-performance mindset coach, a mom, a former professional athlete, and an entrepreneur. I help coaches and high performers optimize their mindset to improve their coaching, their performance, and those other athletes and their lives. Here, you'll learn all about mindset, how to live it, how to teach it, and how to sell it.
Lindsey 00:35
Hi all and welcome to Mindset Coach Academy, I wanted to get on real quick and talk to you guys about something that is coming up. And something we're gonna be working on this month in our monthly Mindset Coaching Program.
Lindsey 00:52
Now, our monthly mindset coaching program is not super public. So if you don't know much about it, I'll be talking about it more in the podcast. But if you don't know what I'm talking about, you're not alone, we haven't announced it publicly. It's a real private group at this point. We may open it up. But essentially, we get together and we talk only mindset.
Lindsey 01:10
It's a lot of Mindset Coach Academy students, building their businesses, but it's a lot of people, a lot of coaches, a lot of people that just want to continually work on their mindset. And this month, we're talking about the ability to allow things to be easy in our lives. And I'm going to talk about that.
Lindsey 01:32
But it's bringing up a lot of things that I've seen pretty regularly in all of my students, whether they're entrepreneurs, whether they're athletes, whether they're coaches, whether they're just human beings trying to do their best. And that is this idea of asking for permission. And I will say broadly, like asking for permission to live the life that they want. And I want to talk about three ways that I see this showing up big for my students.
Lindsey 02:04
And I also want to talk about how you can build up your own self-awareness about if and where you're doing this, and what you can do to sort of nudge yourself away from it if it's no longer serving you. So again, these are the three big ways that I see people needing permission in their life. In other words, they're looking for validation outside of themselves, to do something that they want to do.
Lindsey 02:30
So the first way I see this is in earning potential/success. So I see this with my mindset coach certification students that are looking for permission to be a mindset coach, they're looking for permission to charge, they're looking for permission to be an entrepreneur.
Lindsey 02:50
Now some of this is also wrapped up in them wanting to be qualified. And I think there is a great part of that. You want to be trained, be able to do this, and do this, right? You want to be trained to feel good about charging money and that you're offering value. The problem is that when we're looking for external validation, for some people, it never ends.
Lindsey 03:13
So they may get certified. And then they may think, well, now I need to go get my Ph.D. Or maybe I need to do this training or maybe I need to do that training. And instead, sure, get trained by us by somebody else, get certifications at whether it's mindset coaching or something else, build up your toolbox. Absolutely.
Lindsey 03:31
But when that continues to be the reason and excuse for not taking action, we're looking for external permission or validation to do this thing that we already want to do. Okay, that can be dangerous.
Lindsey 03:43
The second thing is, and these are not mutually exclusive, okay, these are just sort of buckets. So first have the earning potential and the success. I also see this with athletes, like this is why sometimes it's really hard for an athlete to be really good when they're new on a team, or when they're a freshman, for example.
Lindsey 04:02
And sometimes by the time they become a senior, again, for example, they're like screw it, I've put in my time I've earned this, I'm just gonna go for it. When they could have done that earlier on. They were looking for permission. So that's earning potential success.
Lindsey 04:18
The second thing is someone that's looking for permission to do something that they already know that they want to do. But that thing requires bravery and confidence and maybe even requires or feels like it requires other people's opinions like you need your spouse's permission, I'm using quotation marks or your boss's permission.
Lindsey 04:40
And a lot of that is in our mind, we are looking for external validation. We are looking towards other people to validate and give us permission to do the thing that we already know that we want to do.
Lindsey 04:54
The third way and this is what we're focusing on this month in our monthly coaching is permission to let things be easy. Now, again, this is often wrapped up in either taking time off, making more money, or asking for more money and then maybe doing less work. So again, these aren't mutually exclusive, but the ability to allow for yourself and give yourself permission to let things be easy is important.
Lindsey 05:26
Now, again, we're focusing on this in our monthly coaching, because when I'm recording this, we're going into summer, I think this is relevant at all times of the year. But a lot of people take time off in the summer, and they have to wrap their minds around and give themselves permission to take time off, give themselves permission to allow things to be easy, give themselves permission to do what they want to do, give themselves permission to make more money than they ever thought possible.
Lindsey 05:52
So again, when I'm talking about permission, I'm really looking, I'm talking about you, as a human looking for validation and permission outside of yourself. And what we want to do is become aware of that, because that is not always, always always a bad thing. Again, it can be wrapped up in wanting to be qualified, and that's okay.
Lindsey 06:10
But if we're always looking for things externally, we are making decisions in our life based on who we're surrounding ourselves with, who we choose to surround ourselves with, and who we choose to listen to. And that can be dangerous because who we choose to listen to, is already a reflection of what we are living right now. So that's why it's really hard to make these big changes that we have to allow ourselves to give ourselves permission.
Lindsey 06:38
Now, where's this coming from? A lot of times, this comes from wanting to be good, this more comes from wanting to follow the rules, starts young, kind of keeping us in line. And again, this isn't always bad. But you think about even in school like we need permission to use the bathroom, for example.
Lindsey 06:57
And so this starts young, we need a hall pass to go down the street, or to go down the hall to use the restroom or get a drink of water or whatever. And so this idea that we need permission from other people, starts young. But I also want to talk about it, not directly on the permission side, but on the deeper layer of this idea of worthiness.
Lindsey 07:22
So this is where we have to think about, do we believe we are worthy of these things that we want. Because if we don't, then we look more externally. For someone else to tell us we are worthy to tell us we are ready to tell us it's okay. to dream big, it's okay to make 1000s of dollars as a mindset coach because you're providing a ton of value.
Lindsey 07:53
Like, obviously, that's just an example that we see a lot with our mindset coaching students, but making sure that we are, again, we can look for things that allow us to be credible. But when we look too much for external validation and permission from other people, it's dangerous because those people may or may not be there. And more likely, they aren't if it's a big leap, because we surround ourselves with people that see us the way that we are comfortable being seen. So this is why change is so hard.
Lindsey 08:29
And so we're creating this reality around us, we're allowing ourselves, our own ability to give ourselves permission to live the life that we want in all aspects of our life, whether we're talking about competing or starting a business or doing something else that we want to do in our life. And then we're allowing ourselves to feel worthy or not worthy.
Lindsey 08:49
We're allowing ourselves to give ourselves permission or not give ourselves permission. And this is all subconscious. It's based on our internal beliefs about what's possible for us. And then we surround ourselves with people that validate that, for better or for worse, let me say that again, for better or for worse, we surround ourselves with people that reflect that belief.
Lindsey 09:12
Okay, so this is why, as I've said before, it is so important to be aware of how we're doing this, how we are limiting ourselves based on needing permission, give yourself permission. This is why mindset work. This is why we do our monthly coaching. This is why we do our Daily Beast because we have to become aware of what we want. Where are we looking for permission? Where are we seeking it out? And once we know that we can give ourselves permission.
Lindsey 09:43
Now, even deeper than that, even deeper than that, is oftentimes we are holding on to these beliefs because they're part of our identity. For example, we believe that we believe in hard work, so we're never gonna allow ourselves to take time.
Lindsey 10:00
And we hold on to that even though we're burnout, even though it's not working for us even anymore, even though it's no longer serving us. We believe in earning everything I see this a lot with the coaches and athletes that I work with. This is a great thing. Great hard work, earning things. Awesome. We love that part of ourselves.
Lindsey 10:18
But does it also allow us to build a thriving business? Or were we constantly making things hard? Does it allow us to raise our prices? Does it allow us to take August off and recuperate for the next season? Does it allow us to be the best on the team, even though we just got on the team? And so digging down and saying, Where am I not? What do I want? And where do I need to give myself permission to not only want that thing but get that thing?
Lindsey 10:52
These are powerful forces at work, guys, this is our subconscious elephant we talk about all the time. This is our subconscious elephant, telling ourselves what we can want. This is our subconscious elephant telling ourselves what we are worthy of and what we have permission for.
Lindsey 11:09
And we're looking for external validation, you guys, you get to live the life that you want. You want permission here, you have permission to go for the life that you want. Now, you're gonna have to keep giving yourself permission over and over and over again. Because remember, our brain pulls us back to what is comfortable, even if it's not in our best interest.
Lindsey 11:33
So recap. Again, in our monthly coaching, we're talking about permission to allow things to be easy. But I see it a lot in allowing things to be easy. I see it a lot in earning potential/success.
Lindsey 11:48
And then I see it a lot with people doing something that they want to do, but wanting permission from other people to do it. So again, this is looking for validation and permission and other people, we have to be able to be aware of where we're holding ourselves back, because no one has taken their magic wand and stuck your head and said, you now have permission to make a certain amount of money you have now permission to be successful.
Lindsey 12:12
You now have permission to do whatever the fuck you want with your life, you have permission to be awesome, and you have permission to go do exactly what you feel called to do. There's my magic wand, okay? But you have to be able to do that for yourself. But first, you have to be aware of where you're not doing this. Because again, have internal beliefs, about work about money about what you're worthy of about being good about following the rules, whatever it is, and then allowing yourself to give yourself permission.
Lindsey 12:47
Alright, guys, those are my thoughts for today, I hope were helpful. If you'd love this podcast if you got something one little nugget out of it, would you do me a favor and leave a review you guys it helps so so so much I can't tell you, and then text it or share it with a friend. There's a little arrow, you can just send it to a friend that you think is also doing this because listen, we all need to be reminded that we get to give ourselves permission if we are adults, or close to it.
Lindsey 13:13
Right? We are adults, we get to give ourselves permission because we have one frickin life. And we get to live it how we want. So go do that thing that you've been waiting for permission. Give yourself permission and go do it. Alright, guys.
Lindsey 13:25
Have a great day.
Lindsey 13:28
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Lindsey 13:46
We send out bonus episodes, we have our mental Mondays, we have interviews and training episodes, definitely subscribe. If you want to teach it, meaning taking it to your athletes or your clients. I highly recommend the Psychology of Competition. Again, you can check that out at positiveperformancetraining.com It is a great course that will teach you and your athletes how to have pre, during, and post-competition routines to up your performance.
Lindsey 14:08
And if you want to learn how to have a mindset coaching business in order to sell mindset coaching, highly recommend signing up for our waitlist for our next certification cohort, which usually opens about once a year, but in the meantime, go to positiveperformancetraining.com.And check out our Ultimate Mindset Coaching Toolkit which will show you exactly how to get started with your first mindset coaching clients. Again, go to positiveperformancetraining.com for all of our free and paid resources.
