Lindsey 0:12
Welcome to the Mindset Coach Academy Podcast. I'm Lindsey Wilson. And I am a high-performance mindset coach, a mom, a former professional athlete, and an entrepreneur, I help coaches and high performers optimize their mindset to improve their coaching, their performance, and those other athletes and their lives. Here, you'll learn all about mindset, how to live it, how to teach it, and how to sell it.
Lindsey 0:37
Hi all, and welcome to the Mindset Coach Academy podcast. My name is Lindsey Wilson. And today we are doing something different because we're going live on Facebook, and doing our podcast.
Lindsey 0:49
Now, what I want to talk about today is I want to talk about the feeling and the thought of being overwhelmed, having a lack of clarity or being confused. Now, we're talking about this, because yesterday in our insider mastermind, we talked about this very thing. I am pushing my mindset coaching students to do a lot in their businesses right now.
Lindsey 1:15
And this is what we do the certification to. And always there is a point when everyone starts feeling overwhelmed. And this, my friends, is an amazing opportunity to practice what we preach. Because when we are overwhelmed, we get to choose to stay in that thought or choose another one.
Lindsey 1:36
Now, what happens if we don't do anything we feel like being overwhelmed is a fact that there is nothing we can do or being confused. Confusion is happening to us, there is no control that we have over the situation. It is something that has happened and it is absolute truth and fact.
Lindsey 2:01
But it is not. It is a choice to think otherwise. Because when we don't choose, we cannot believe that we are confused or believe that we are overwhelmed, and then go find things around us that lead us out of that. It is not possible. Our brain always wants to be right. Our brain always wants to be right.
Lindsey 2:24
Right now we know this is mindset coaches because we understand the reticular activating system goes and filters out sensory input based on what we already believe we know this is mindset coaches, we have to practice it also, our subconscious elephant always wants to be right.
Lindsey 2:40
It wants to lead us where it believes we should go and not venture into new things. And this happens whether that future self is good for us or bad for us. So obviously being in confusion and being overwhelmed is not a good thing. Right? Objectively is not a good thing.
Lindsey 2:57
But if that's what our brain believes, we will go find it. So this creates a really bad pattern, right? Because we believe we're confused. And then all we can see is confusion around us. When we feel overwhelmed, all we can see is opportunities to be more overwhelmed. We can't even see something right in front of us. If we don't believe that that thing is possible.
Lindsey 3:24
So one of the simplest things that you can do. And again, this is practicing what we preach, because we are going to challenge our clients to do this. So one of the simplest things you can do is, I feel overwhelmed, is switch that thought.
Lindsey 3:39
So when I feel overwhelmed, I have an emotion, I feel unmotivated, I feel dejected, I feel whatever, whatever your feeling is, which leads us to an action, which means we probably aren't going to do that much we're gonna do the wrong thing. Or we're just gonna sit there and get on Instagram because we're overwhelmed. We don't like that feeling.
Lindsey 4:00
Which leads us to not getting anything done. Okay, our thought leads to our emotion, which leads to our action, which leads to our result every single time. So we're getting a result we don't like, which is procrastination or getting on Instagram or just not working on the right things, we're getting a result that we don't like, and we can try to will ourselves out of that.
Lindsey 4:19
But remember, we believe that we're confused and overwhelmed. So we can't see the options in front of us. So we have to backtrack, we have to go back to the thought that is causing this and the thought we can choose. Remember what I said in the beginning, it is not an absolute fact that we are overwhelmed and confused.
Lindsey 4:39
We can also believe the opposite, which is I find time I'm able to prioritize my time. I work on the most important things first. I am able to figure things out. When we feel that when we say that to ourselves, and we really work on building using it now, we're not gonna have thought about the thought.
Lindsey 5:02
That's the other thing that came up yesterday, is you have thought about the thought, well, that's that's not true. No, no, we're not doing that. We're thinking the thought, this is just an exercise, we're thinking the thought we don't even have to believe it. We're thinking the thought and allowing that to come up as an emotion.
Lindsey 5:18
So I, if we're feeling confused, we say, I believe that I can figure it out. And let me take a deep breath or shoulders relax with it. Okay. Yeah. And then we start thinking in our brain, remember the reticular, activating things, letting things in? Oh, I've done this before in my life. Oh, this person over here can help me. Oh, my students.
Lindsey 5:41
Lindsey just told me the six steps I just need to do. Oh, okay, maybe things aren't so confusing. And then we start taking action, follow the six steps Lindsey just told me to do, ah, then I get results, which is always reinforcing the thought because we want those things to match up, reinforcing the thought, which is, I'm able to figure it out. I just figured it out. Look, look at me.
Lindsey 6:04
Okay, so when we feel confused or overwhelmed, practice this exercise, and shift your thought, which leads to a motion, which leads to a different action, which leads to a different result. It works every single time you guys now this isn't a guarantee on external results. So don't say, oh, try it one time, like, oh, well, I didn't get 19 clients, knocking down my door, if that all works, okay.
Lindsey 6:29
But it can work if we work the process if we really work on the process and shifting our thoughts in the moment. Because the alternative is sitting there with our hands tied and believing that our life happens to us, that is an option, you can do that you are allowed to do that.
Lindsey 6:46
And some of us do that for like, you know, when we want to wallow in self-pity, that's okay, just snap out of it and use a tool like this. Alright, so remember, we need to practice this also because we are practicing what we preach, okay, we are telling our athletes or our clients that they need to be able to shift their thoughts.
Lindsey 7:04
So imagine a coach, I'm sorry, imagine an athlete that goes into every single practice thinking that their coach hates them, their result is going to reflect that every single time, they cannot believe that their coach hates them, and then experience their coach pushing them in a really positive way. It's not possible, they will always interpret that as a negative.
Lindsey 7:25
So we teach them to shift their thoughts. What if you went into practice, and you believe that your coach is pushing you because he or she cares? Just try it. Now, how does that feel in your body? Now? How are you going to show up to practice action? What result? Is that going to be?
Lindsey 7:45
Again, the result is not guaranteed playing time, we're not promising that. But the result maybe I experienced, you know, I had a lot more fun at practice. And I believe my coach was pushing me. So do you see how this is important for us to practice what we preach? We will have clients, athletes or not, that also need to shift their thoughts and choose intentionally something else to think we want a different result people, we have to have a different thought.
Lindsey 8:14
We want a different result, we have to have different thoughts. And it's sneaky. Because oftentimes, the thing that we need to shift feels like it's untouchable. It feels like it's fact, it feels is why thought work is so important in journaling and all the stuff we teach because it feels like there is no other option than to be overwhelmed or be confused. Right?
Lindsey 8:41
We can even the way we talk about it. We don't say I'm feeling confused, we say I am confused. We don't say I'm feeling overwhelmed. Sometimes you do. We don't often say I’m feeling overwhelmed, we say I am overwhelmed as if it's not something we choose. It just is and that's not true. It is not a fact. A fact is the sky is blue. Being overwhelmed is not a fact. It is a choice.
Lindsey 9:10
Okay, so practice for yourself. This is why we work on this so much in the mindset coach Academy because time is, I always say, a mindset issue. Time is a mindset issue. So practice when you're feeling a lack of clarity, confusion, or overwhelm shifting your thought about that and see what happens. See what happens because everything can shift.
Lindsey 9:32
Alright guys, practice it.
Lindsey 9:37
Hey, if you love this episode, make sure to check out all of our free and paid resources over at positiveperformancetraining.com You want to take mindset training to the next level we got you. But here are three more specific ways.
Lindsey 9:49
If you want to take mindset training and live it more in your life. Definitely subscribe to this podcast. We send out bonus episodes, we have our mental Mondays, we have interviews and training episodes, definitely subscribe. If you want to teach it, meaning taking it to your athletes or your clients. I highly recommend the Psychology of Competition.
Lindsey 10:07
Again, you can check that out at positiveperformancetraining.com It is a great course that will teach you and your athletes how to have pre, during, and post-competition routines to up your performance. And if you want to learn how to have a mindset coaching business in order to sell mindset coaching, highly recommend signing up for our waitlist for our next certification cohort, which usually opens about once a year, but in the meantime, go to positiveperformancetraining.com.
Lindsey 10:32
And check out our Ultimate Mindset Coaching Toolkit which will show you exactly how to get started with your first mindset coaching clients. Again, go to positiveperformancetraining.com for all of our free and paid resources.
