Hi guys and welcome back to the Mindset Coach Academy podcast. My name is LindsEy Wilson.
Today guys we're doing something a little bit different. I'm actually really excited about doing just a life update and initially I was a little, I don't know, hesitant to do it because I was like who actually cares about what's going on in my life. But then I really, my whole premise with this podcast has always been, I remember when I was going back and forth about exactly what the podcast was going to be around. And exactly what I'm going to talk about. And I remember my husband just saying the best podcasts are the ones where people talk about what interests them and what they would want to listen to.
And so I've always kind of taken that to heart and I've realized that in so many of the podcasts that I listen to, I don't want to hear about someone's life maybe every single time, but every once in a while those are the episodes that I really, really appreciate because it's peeling back the curtain a little bit and it's not just talking about, I don't know, self-improvement and you know, all the things we talk about, the mindset and mental training and all the things that we talk about, which of course are important. This is just me. Me, you, like we're sitting down having a turmeric latte or golden milk, which is now my new favorite, or we're out for a walk. I'm going to see a girlfriend next week and we're going to walk one of the popular lakes around Seattle called Green Lake and I'm so excited and I realize I just need more of that in my life. I need more walks with girlfriends.
So even if you're not a girlfriend, I'm going to pretend like you are. I'm also sitting in a new spark space in my office, which is a really, really comfy chair surrounded by all my plants and it's just a little bit more casual. Again, it's us sitting down and just chit chatting. So that's what we're doing and I, if you're on video, you can see some of that. And if you're not, you can just imagine it. So anyway, if you're into, if you're not into the life update, go ahead and skip this episode.
You can move on to something else. But if you are, let's sit down, chat, or maybe you're not sitting down. Maybe you're doing what I do with podcasts, which is empty the dishwasher or walking or working out or whatever. Anyway, thank you for having me in your ear.
So as many of you know, it has been like a tremendously difficult six months for me. I'm not going to go into all the details. And the reason that I'm not is because it involves other people. If it were just my business, you all know I will share my business. Not maybe right when I'm in it, but generally when it's just me, I generally do share even some kind of rather personal things. So I'm going to hold off on like the details on that, but just talk about what it's been like and what the things that I have learned and the things that I've held on to. And some of just like the minutia of my life, the places that I found joy and just kind of share with you some of that.
Again, just like we're sitting down. So I know one of the biggest things that, that I did in the last, I guess that was more like two months ago. So about two months ago, and this was like, I was in the middle of it. I was in the middle of just crazy stress. Like my nervous system was like just firing all over the place.
And like day to day, I was just trying to like keep it together. And I decided to do a photo shoot. And I did it with Jenny Jimenez, who is a friend of mine. Our daughters are the same age and she's like a really good photographer in Seattle.
So I had us on the calendar and photo shoots are a little bit of a mixed bag. Like they're good on one hand because you have to get your shit together and they're challenging on one end because you have to get your shit together. But I kind of needed that for me. Like I needed like a line in the sand to be like, okay, you're going to look good. You're going to get everything together. You're going to figure out the shots you need. You're going to think about your, what your business needs. Like all of it's like sometimes it's good to just have a forcing function, right?
Like that was my force function of like it's on this day. You're paying a lot of money. I went and got my, or I added in the hair done and then the makeup done and stuff that in the past. And I'm like, I can just do it myself, you know, so I added in all that. And prior to that, I had been kind of working out a lot. So I was in pretty good shape. And I'd gotten my hair done, which you all know is important. So I had that done, almost got canceled last minute, got it done. And I also went shopping. So for some of you may think this is not a big deal.
People shopping, clothes, big deal. And let me tell you why. So for the past eight years, like a lot of the world, I have either been in lockdown. Or I've been pregnant, postpartum, you know, boobs leaking milk everywhere.
Like not at my finest, like fashion time in my life, right? And even post, our youngest is now 15 months old. But and I don't really do a lot of dieting, but I also am very conscious of like being lucky enough to breastfeed. So I never mess with my diet in that regard. I eat everything under the sun, but she was coming out of breastfeeding. And so I was limiting food a little bit more, not in a diety way, but just to just sort of like feel better and not over-indulge. And I was doing a little bit of fasting, not like a crazy amount, but I was just skipping breakfast.
And not eating so much at night. And I really felt good with that. It was like a very natural progression for me. It didn't feel like, I'm like, I'm doing this and I got to just lose all this weight. It was more like, let me just limit my caloric intake a little bit and see how it feels. And it felt great. It wasn't, I don't know, wasn't a big thing. It also helped me just kind of reset my appetite and like when I'm really hungry.
Anyway, that aside. So I kind of leaned up a little bit and I started, I went shopping and, you know, I just, I really needed that. I really like, like, you know, those moments in your life when you like look at everything in your closet and like, I have no clothes. Like I have nothing that I like.
There was like not one thing in here that I would actually even wear to a photo shoot. And so I got to shopping. And, you know, even for me, that's a big deal because I have to prioritize, you know, when I'm away from my kids, I want to like be working, working. I want to get my shit done, right? And so I was like prioritizing shopping and trying on all the clothes and thinking about what I, what the look I wanted in the photo shoot and what do I want to wear on a day to day basis.
And it was all just like this sort of process of sort of finding myself in a way. And I think, you know, clothes and fashion get kind of a bad rap in some ways because it can be so indulgent and it can be so expensive. It can be so superfluous.
But there is a point where fashion and the clothes that you wear and the image that you project is super important. And for me, it was like almost like this coming out of, again, eight years of babies and lockdown and like, I haven't done a lot of in person stuff or like any. I've been a little bit of a recluse. And so it felt, excuse me, I'm drinking water.
I'm just getting over cold. It felt really good to step out and just get some clothes that I like and get my hair done how I want it. Anyway, so fast, fast, fast forward to the photo shoot day and it was amazing. Jenny is just amazing. And I got so many shots and I had my oldest daughter come, which was super fun and hired her to be my little fashion, you know, stylist for the day. And yeah, it was just awesome. I got kind of some new pictures for my for my business and also just like stepped out into, you know, just a me that had been sort of hidden for a while. Let's put it that way. So that felt really good.
That was one of the big things that happened in the last couple months. I will also say that, you know, from a from a fitness standpoint, I've been doing a lot of like 30 minute workouts. I do a lot of Peloton app stuff. I have those adjustable dumbbells. I think they're called core fitness, maybe. Anyway, they go from like five to, I don't even know, I never use the highest one. I think it was like 45 or 50 dumbbells.
So and they're adjustable by five pound increments. So I have that I have a bike. I don't have the Peloton bike because I have a really good spin bike that I just do the Peloton spin workouts on the bike and that works right for me. I just got a new yoga mat because I'm noticing mine is really old and kind of gross. And I have a bench, but I also have like these rubber mats and a big mirror.
So I have a real like one person fitness studio in my house. And that has been just amazing. Like I've been doing that often.
And at least a couple of times a week. I do a cold shower after so the summer I was doing to calm my nervous system. I was doing some cold plunges. I got something called the cold pod. It's really just an inflatable plastic one person thing that you can fill up with water like a kiddie pool almost but like higher. So you can squat down and you can fill it up. It was hard to get it cold enough with enough ice.
And you have to try to keep it clean. So I did it this summer. My kids of course love playing in it.
It was great. But from a like what am I really going to do consistently? What's like the easiest thing? And for me right now it's a cold shower. So if you haven't listened, you may have heard me talk about cold plunging or anybody else.
I mean, everybody's talking about it. I've used cold plunges over the year. I mean, obviously as an athlete, I used them for recovery.
I used them a couple of years ago when I had PTSD. I used the lake. You know, in Seattle the lake's pretty cold, but like actually freezing.
Not quite freezing a little bit above, but really cold in the winter. But anyway, for me, the workout and the cold shower has been really, really helpful from a nervous system standpoint. And so that's been a pretty big consistent piece of my self care in the last little bit.
So that's one thing. Just working out, you know, and like so many of you like exercise has been just such a constant in my life. So to get into a good routine with that again has been really great. I wasn't really out of a routine, but I just got into a better one. And that with the addition of the cold shower a couple of times a week has really been helpful. And you can see if you're watching a video, I got some kinesio tape, physio tape on my arm.
I got a couple little Owies, but we're working on that. through it. So that's what I'm doing from an exercise standpoint. I also played indoor soccer a couple weeks ago, a friend called, and she's like, we need another female basically. And I was like, I haven't played soccer in, I don't even know how long, but my daughters play and like, I always love soccer. I mean, I played soccer pretty seriously until, let's see, about 12, I think I stopped playing club soccer. But I still played high school for another couple years.
And like, that was my second love. So soccer is just like, it's such a fun sport. By the way, I just watched the Beckham documentary, awesome, was super fun. And just so cool to see, you know, another professional athlete playing at such a high level and all through Europe. And like, it was just a really fun, fun thing to watch. So I played indoor soccer the other day. And that was super fun.
My hips the next day, we're definitely feeling it more actually more like my ad doctors. But God, that was so fun. And I forgot how much indoor soccer is like basketball, like there's so much of like the give and go I mean, I think it's even five on five, maybe yeah, five on five with the goalie, I'm not sure if it's five or five, five on five or six on six. But it's so much like basketball. I mean, with the fast breaks and like, you know, we come, what are they called breakaways, but it's just very similar.
Like it's it's a very it's up your using your feet. So that was super fun. The other thing that is like, been a huge part of which you're gonna laugh when you hear it in the last few months is my bird feeder. You guys, I've had bird feeders before.
But for some reason, like now I am freaking into it. We get so many birds. So I have a seed feeder, which is on like a shepherd's hook. And that's been great. I refill that. But the thing that gets the most traction and like birds are just like clamoring for it is the suites. So I have two hanging suites. And I have to fill those up every couple days.
And the suites are like the, you know, they're like the square, they look like, I don't know, like mashed up cake or something. And the ones that they've been loving lately are the ones with hot pepper, which I learned are great because squirrels have a sense of taste or smell or something and birds don't or something. So like, there's certain things that repel squirrels and rats and everything. And birds still really like it and hot peppers one of them.
So a couple hot pepper suites out there. I can tell you guys that like, I can't imagine anybody and like, we have it outside our window. So like our, my girls and my baby, when she wakes up, I always take her to look at the birds and the cats of course come by too. But they're all, everybody's looking, there's just like a lot of activity outside of our house. And we live, you know, we live in the city, but we live next to a green belt. So there's a lot of activity, but it's not like you can see all of it, you know, especially in the back, it's in our backyard, so it's dark at night.
And so it's really nice to bring some of that to the front of our house where we're more paying attention and we can see and it's closer to us. I can't imagine anybody like not benefiting from a bird feeder. Like I'm just going to go ahead and say that like, if you're bored or you're down or, you know, you got some big change in your life, like a bird feeder, like I cannot imagine a situation where a bird feeder wouldn't help.
Like that's how strongly I feel about my bird feeders. And they're in this place where they're, they're in front of our big picture windows in our living room. So again, the girls can sit with the cushions and we're on the couch and we have this big L shaped couch that's seen better days, but it's amazing because we just, we flop on it.
So the girls can sit there and watch. And then like if I'm in the kitchen, I can also see it because our kitchen is right off our living room. So like I'm washing the dishes, I'm washed, just in the counter and I see all these different types of birds. Like we had a hawk in the tree this summer. And of course, as soon as the hawk came, all the birds went away. And it's like, we're sitting there, it's like watching, you know, the national geographic and like, oh my God, all the birds, where the birds go, oh, there's a hawk.
Okay. So like, and then I'm like, how long is it going to take for the, what's the hawk leaves for the birds come back. And if you all listened to me before, like I'm obsessed with hawks, there's a, there used to be a hawk in the greenbelt. I haven't seen it for a while except for, and then I just saw this one. So now I'm thinking is the hawk back? I don't know. Anyway, you guys, literally get yourself the suet feeders, the suets themselves, I think are $1.50.
I mean, is there any better way to spend your money? And then the suet holders are probably, I don't know, I think you can get them for under $10 because they're just little, they're just little like plastic or sorry, metal cages, right? So the suet just goes inside so they can't take the whole thing out, they just peck.
So that's what I'm going to say about bird feeders. The other thing that I've been doing lately is I've just been reading a ton. And I really, I've always been a reader except for these like early years of my kid's life, because I just felt like I didn't have the concentration. I couldn't, I was so tired at night, like I just, I was so sleep deprived, like just reading.
But I would, I also noticed that like for a lot of it, for me was like, wait, I got to figure out what to read and then I have to read it. And I was like, I, that's, I can't just, but my library, God bless the public library, my library has these in the front of their, the library now, they have something called peak picks. And it's all curated by I guess the librarian. And there's just tons of really great books. And you're only supposed to keep them for two weeks.
There's no holds, there's no weights, you just take what's there and you return them in two weeks. And, but they're all really good, not all, most of them are really good. So it's already this curated list of books.
It's kind of like when you go into a bookstore, and they've picked out like the best top sellers, and you're like, okay, well, I know pretty much most of these are going to be good. So I'll start there. So that's what it is. And so I literally I walk into the library every two weeks now. And I get like, I don't know, six to eight books. And I just go through them. And like, I read a book, a novel last night, like, started and finished it in one night.
Because my baby is sleeping better through the night or not better, she's sleeping, she's like a champ, she's sleeping through the night. And so like, by the time I get the girls down, I'm like, I need some me time. And my me time right now has been reading.
And it's been amazing. I go through times when it sometimes I'll watch like a series at night. But I just haven't wanted to right now, like, it's getting dark later or earlier here, it's cold, I like, I just want to curl up in a bed and read. And sometimes I do read some nonfiction.
But I've been really into novels, like dramas, and some thrillers, and some, yeah, some murder mysteries, some romance, whatever, like, and it's been so fun. And I've been going through these books so fast. And I, again, I just go to the library and get a pile of them and I return them. I don't want to own any of these books. That's why I got blessed library. And I also love holding a book. So I know you can do it on Kindle or on the iPad. And I have done that.
But it's been amazing. And I found like another author that I just absolutely love her name is Maggie Smith. And she's a poet. And she also wrote a memoir called, it's called This Place Could Be Beautiful.
If you like beautiful writing, read her books and read her poetry, it is amazing, Maggie Smith. So that's been fun. I've also been cooking a ton, which has always been a go to. I've kind of perfect, like every week I'm like cooking on weekends, I usually cook like spaghetti meatballs for the girls, well, not for the girls for me to, but just like we eat that for a couple days. I'm cooking bread, like three times a week, or rolls with butter on top on my cast iron, which is super fun. The girls come home and like eat the whole pan. I make cinnamon rolls, which are kind of a lot of work. But then you see people eat them and it's like the best thing they've ever tasted.
And you're like, okay, that was totally worth it. I usually make granola once or twice a week, because we're all eating it with yogurt and jam. And that's just like a nice go to. And I make it like pretty healthy. Like I definitely put sugar and maple syrup in it, but like, it's pretty bomb.
It's actually very delicious. And so I don't know. And then I go, you know, the, again, the weather's turning. So I go to my staples, which are my soups, like chicken and dumplings. You know, my girls go crazy for that. So I'm cooking that a lot. But I'm also roasting a ton of vegetables.
A lot of that's for me. You know, I'm a big salad eater. So now I'm moving into like the warm salads. And for me, salads is like everything with the kitchen sink for every meal. I just like throw on the feta cheese and the hard boiled egg and the avocado and like, I'm good.
So that's what I'm doing. As you can see, I don't have any big trips. I don't have some big purchases.
I don't have anything big or fancy or exciting really, even in my life right now. Like it's so simple. I'm just sticking to my routines. I'm just finding safety and comfort and just some predictive predictability. And it feels really good. You know, I'm keeping my people close. I'm reaching out.
I have some great, obviously friends and family, but I also have a really cool support group of women that it's kind of new. And that's been amazing. And it's like, there's just, there's so much love and support around me. And for me, a lot of it is like taking care of myself so that I can be there for my girls and my family and also reaching out to like this amazing structure that I have around me. So that's been, that's been my life, just keeping it really simple.
And that's kind of like the name of the game in 2023 for me at least is keeping it simple. So hopefully things are going well for you as well. Thank you. If you've made it this long, thank you for listening. I would love to hear if you'd like the life update.
I guess I will see you from the metrics. This is again, rather new for me. And I was a little shy to do it because I was like, does anybody really care about what's going on my life? I mean, not in like a self-deprecating way, but just a, I don't know, more of a humble way, I guess. But again, when I think of the podcast that I like to listen to, I really do enjoy hearing about somebody's life, like the behind the scenes, like what's going, what's really going on in the life of an entrepreneur. So that's me.
I am trying to keep it real so that you guys see what's really going on in my life. But I appreciate you so much. And I promise we'll get back to regular scheduled programming with some mindset and mental performance tips coming up here soon on the podcast. So that's all for me. Thanks for being here.
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