Speaker 1: Welcome to the Mindset Coach Academy podcast. I'm Lindsey Wilson and I am a high performance mindset coach, a mom, a former professional athlete and an entrepreneur. I help coaches and high performers optimize their mindset to improve their coaching, their performance and those of their athletes and their lives. Here you'll learn all about mindset, how to live it, how to teach it and how to sell it.
Hi all and welcome back to the Mindset Coach Academy podcast. If you're watching this video, I have a very special guest here on my lap, my little sick little three-year-old. But if you're not, you'll just have to imagine that I have a cute little snuggly girl on my lap as I talk to you today. All right, it's Mental Monday.
So we're going to talk about one tip, tool or technique that you can implement in your life today, this week. And one of the things that's been on my mind is the idea of coaching without consent. So I am a coach. I am a coach through and through.
Probably you are as well. I am constantly wanting to help other people just level up in their life. But with that, at times comes a little bit of trying to tell people what to do.
Let's put it that way. And there's one thing, there's many people in my life that are in my life and I am their coach and they have consented to me giving them advice, coaching them through their own thoughts, helping them think about things differently. And there are other people in my life that have not, they have not consented to my wonderful advice and may not even think that it's that wonderful. And one of the things that I'm noticing is that that tendency in me, something that I actually really like about myself in the sense of like, I can maybe sometimes see in other people potential that they can't. That's one of my gifts.
And for you, I bet it is as well or something similar, right? A lot of us in coaching kind of have that same sort of mentality. But I think once sometimes, one, it doesn't allow the other person the dignity to make their own mistakes or think through things on their own or allows you to, for them to know that you trust them or believe in them to make those decisions on their own. And for me, I think growing up in sports, it sometimes gets a little like, meshed up in like leadership, right? Or mentoring, or like, you know, I was talking to somebody the other day and I was like, I find myself sometimes as like the senior captain that's like telling the freshmen to get their head out of their ass. Do you know what I mean? Like, and there's a part of me that really likes that in myself, like I have the ability, I have the strength of will to shake somebody and be like, don't do that stupid thing in your life, you know, think it through.
But again, if they haven't given consent, if I don't say, hey, do you want my opinion on this? That's as easy as it can be. Or let me know if you want my help. Or if you'd like to talk about this, I'm here. Like giving them that space, because there are times when someone does want to be shaken and they do want the sort of blunt truth from you. I tend to give the blunt truth without consent because it's just because it's hard for me to not.
But that's not an excuse. Like just because it's hard for me doesn't mean it's the right thing to do. And so I'm just noticing that in myself because that is a muscle that's been exercised and strengthened really over years. And even in my day to day work of like, and as a parent too, like that is part of, that's a big part of my existence is like kind of telling people what I think, right? And coaching them and believing in them even when they don't.
And again, there's such a positive side to that. But if we're not getting consent, if we're not asking people if they even want our opinion, then it becomes, again, it's kind of like not giving them the dignity to know whether they even want your advice or your coaching or any of that. So something that I'm just noticing in myself and thought I would bring it up here because I think it's, you know, and a lot of you are in coaching situations where people have already given consent, right?
But it's just something to notice and watch because it doesn't, it takes a lot of, I think, internal awareness on my part, but it doesn't take a lot of work to ask for consent. Again, it can just be as simple as, do you want my opinion? Is it okay if I coach you? Do you want to talk about this?
I'm here if you need help. You know, it can be one single sentence that gives you consent and just allows that space for them to step towards you. I guess that's maybe a good way of putting it instead of me stepping towards them and again, shaking them and telling them what to do in their life. And that's just something I'm becoming more aware of and trying to watch in myself. So I thought I would share that.
If you love this podcast, please rate, review, subscribe. All of that really does help other people to find us. And of course, if you have a friend, especially a coaching friend or a, you know, whether that's a sports coach or a mindset coach or somebody that is like us, right? That coaches often.
This podcast might be of interest to them because I think it really is an interesting concept and one that I'm trying on and trying to practice and trying to exercise that muscle of getting consent for coaching. So see you again next week. Thanks for being here and see you on another Mental Monday soon. Take care.
Bye for now.
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