I just got back from 8 days in paradise. Our family has a 100-year old cabin in Desolation Wilderness built by my husband’s great grandfather; It’s rustic and simple and has no cell reception. It has no TV and no central heating. We hike into the mountains, make nightly fires, swim in the alpine lakes, and eat dinner on the deck with just the sky, the trees, and the sound of streams running and birds chirping and chipmunks scuttling among the rocks.
Now that I'm a mom, vacation is about THEM. Watching my 4-year old climb for 2 hours on the steepest mountain trail, watching my two daughters invent games with sticks and rocks and pine cones, teaching them how to catch and release crawdads from hand-made fishing poles, seeing them play in the same stream their dad and grandfather grew up playing in.
While I was on vacation, I didn't work for a second, but I did carve out some ‘me’ time; and for me, 'me' time means more than just...
I used to want to be liked. I mean, don’t we all? While there are some people that don't care (which I admire), those people are few and far between... and I'm not one of them. I actually have to work at it.
I don’t mean I WANT to be disliked; that would be ridiculous. I mean it more in the words of my wise cousin Jamie who says,
"Lindsey, to be successful you have to have a healthy disrespect for other people’s opinions.”
(Those are my magic words before I speak in public by the way. Use them, they work)
But you may have noticed, I’m less scripted, less pleasing in my writing and marketing than before. Of course, I didn’t THINK I was editing myself, but turns out, I was. But I did it in such a minimal way that I convinced myself that I wasn't doing it at all. Sneaky, huh?
I’ve been empowered by a number of things- Motherhood, the development of my programs to align with EXACTLY what I want to do, my own mindset work,...
I went skydiving one time. It wasn’t my idea. I was interning after college back in Ames, Iowa and when my internship ended, my boss said he had a surprise for us. He drove us out to a small airport one Tuesday afternoon, plopped down $700 on the counter, and said...
“I’m going skydiving today, yours is paid for if you want to do it too.”
I had never wanted to skydive but I knew in that moment if I didn’t take action, I NEVER would. I would let fear paralyze me and it would never happen. I also knew that THIS opportunity wouldn’t necessarily come again. Sure, there are a million skydiving outfits all over the world, but opportunities don’t just materialize over and over again. They are there, and then they are gone.
I’m glad I did it. It was exhilarating, terrifying, and something I will always remember. I know if I had thought too hard about it, if I’d told myself, ‘I’m only 25,...
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So many coaches have the passion for mental training and the intention to do it but they still haven't started doing it. Why? Well, here is what they tell us:
A lot of coaches that come to us have already some mental training knowledge; they learned a few tools sometime during their playing or coaching career, but not in any sort of organized way.
Oftentimes, this leads coaches to feeling paralyzed with indecision. They end up doing nothing because they don't know where to start.
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As a mental training coach (or mindset coach, as we call it), you cannot affect change in others unless you are willing to do the hard work of shifting your mindset first. It’s not just about achieving goals or pushing yourself, it’s about living what you teach. It's about truly believing and investing in the power of your own mindset enough to live in alignment with your values.
If you are a mindset coach, an influence to others, an agent of change, it is your job to be an example of what is possible.
So what exactly happens when you don't practice what you teach? Frankly, it's not a dramatic shift, it's a slow burn that turns your influence stale. Sometimes, it's even undetectable to anyone but yourself, yet it affects how you evolve and how you impact those around you.
Before addressing the simple, super impactful, actionable ways you build a life that helps you live what...
Life. IS. CRAZY. With kids, a business, a house, and a hubby- It's complete chaos in my life most of the time.
But even in all the chaos, I keep life moving forward and manage to get things done. And I've learned a TON about how to do that better and better.
So whether you are running a business, a household, a team or all of them, this is how I do it. And while I truly believe, we all have to find our OWN way, I have found it helpful to learn what works for others, even if it just helps me back to what I know I should be doing in the first place:) And yes, for me it all starts with MINDSET... and some time management mixed in).
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Welcome to Day 2 of #MT30! If you haven't yet, seen it, Day 1: How to use music to compete like a champ can be found here. Now for today's tip...
One of the most difficult parts of journaling is staying honest with yourself which is why I've found it super helpful to have rules when I journal or when I have my clients do it. When you free write without any rules, you run the risk of editing your work as you write, defeating the purpose entirely. The point of journaling is to get your raw feelings out on paper, not to be 'correct' or to work on your writing style, punctuation etc.
In the following video and subsequent article, I lay out my 4 rules that have taken my journaling to 'ehhh' (and not that helpful) to creating goals, visions, and insight that just flat out weren't happening before. Plus, with these new rules, I feel so much more motivated to journal because I KNOW it's a great use of my time.
Here are a few tips for staying honest while journaling. You can use...
As summer officially begins, I’m working on finding space in my life to work on me. It’s not easy. It seems there is always something else to do that needs my attention. And while working on me is rewarding on one hand, it’s also uncomfortable on the other. In many ways, its just plain easier to send emails and keep busy with the million to-dos I have piling up.
So why do it at all?
As a coach myself, there is nothing more valuable than sitting on the other side of the table with my coach- answering the hard questions, being held to difficult standards, experiencing the awkward silence before I tell my truth about something. But those insights are pure gold in a quest of self-improvement and ultimately it helps me empathize with, understand and teach my students in an authentic way. In other words, it gives me credibility; I am practicing what I preach.
If we ask it of others, we must require it of ourselves.
And so, this summer, I challenge you to take the time to...
I have to admit, as a former athlete, I love everything about being coached; I love the accountability, the goal setting, the planning, the undivided attention of someone who believes in me. I even love the hard stuff, like someone telling me I’m making excuses or that I need to stop doing stupid shit.
But I was late to professional coaching mostly because I didn’t really know what it was. I always assumed these coaches spent their days white-boarding with the president of Coca-Cola or brainstorming leadership ideas with the CEO of Google. I wasn’t exactly sure how they could help me.
But, I was curious because I missed it. I missed having someone in my corner that saw in me a level I couldn’t see in myself. Plus, there was this nagging voice in my head that told me I could do more.
If you've never met me, I suppose you could say one of the last things people think about me is, "Wow, this woman really lacks confidence". I teach confidence, I speak in front of hundreds of people regularly about confidence, I try to exude strength and confidence in everything I do.
I FEEL confident most of the time, but there are also times when I don't. During these moments of obvious uncertainty, I learned to put into play some skills to snap out of it.
Through all my talks and lectures, even I need a reminder sometimes. Even I need to make sure my confidence is coming through in all that I do; during one notable season of my life, it wasn't.
I was playing professional basketball. At first I was excited to share the news, but quickly grew tired of the onslaught of attention I was receiving when I revealed my chosen profession.
So I stopped telling people.
Instead, I'd say I was in "athletics" and try to leave it at that. Basically, I started...